"The Holiday" movie quotes...

I love this movie, "The Holiday". There are so many quotes that seem so real to life for me. I was thinking about it the other day and thought I'd put them here.

Graham: I can't imagine anyone being a bigger hit with my children.
Amanda: They are really great, Graham!
Graham: Sophie has unfortunately taken over the role of my protector. She's brilliant but I hate it when she worries about me. And Olivia is going to be a real bore buster which I must admit I kind of love about her.
Amanda: I am just trying to figure out why you didn't tell me about them.
Graham: Because I just don't usually tell women about them.
Amanda: But its just a little confusing because your the one who wanted to go out to lunch to know one another.
Graham: Oh! When you put it that way, it sounds awful. I have no defense except that until i get to know someone really well, it's easier for me to be a normal, single guy; because it is way too complicated to be who I really am. I'm a full-time dad. I'm a working parent. I'm a mother and a father. I'm a guy who reads parenting books and cookbooks before I go to sleep. I spend my weekends buying tutus. I'm learning to sew. I'm Mr. Napkin Head! I want some kind of constant overload and it helps to compartmentalise my life, just till i figure this out. This past weekend, the children were with their grandparents and when they are gone, i get to be somebody who doesn't have hot chocolate spill on his jeans. I have no idea how to date and be this. And I suppose there is, the possibility I am afraid of what another person might do to what we are and how we get from one day to the next.

Iris: "What I am trying to say is, I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade."

Iris: "I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said "love is blind". Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there's another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space!"

Arthur Abbott: You know what I have been asking myself all night.
Iris: What? Why I am bothering you with all these questions?
Arthur: I am wondering, Why a beautiful girl like you would go to stranger's house for her Christmas vacation. And on top of that spend a Saturday night with an old ka-ka like me.
Iris: Well, I... I just wanted to get away from the people, I see all the time. Well not all the people, one person. I wanted to get away from one guy, an ex-boyfriend who just got engaged and forgot to tell me. I am Sorry!
Arthur: So he's a schmuck.
Iris: As a matter of fact, he is a huge Schmuck. How did you know?
Arthur: He let you go. This is not a hard one to figure out. Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend.
Iris: You are so right. You are supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for god's sake! Arthur, I have been going to a therapist for three years, and she's never explained anything to me that well. That was brilliant, brutal, but brilliant. Thank you.